change...its inevitable...or is it?
who decides that things change?.....who decides that you or i have to change as people?
do we have to change?....do i get to choose that i want to be exactly the same as i am today for the rest of my life...or will life force me to change into a different person?
I'm entering a completely new phase in my life.I'm going to be an employed person.Its my first job.
I'm making promises that i wont change.I know i cant promise that things and life wont change.I know for a fact that it will.But can i promise that i wont change and stick to it?
Is it completely in my hands to decide whether i am the same person a couple of months down the line..a year down the line...as i am today?......
Im not afraid of change.I infact embrace it.I believe its a natural process of life and fighting change is stunting ure own growth.But not everybody thinks the same do they?what do i do about the people in my life who dont think that way?..they believe that if i change it was my personal choice to be different or think differently and i could have prevented it if i wanted to.
Maybe they are right.But maybe i want to change.Maybe i want to grow into an emotionally strong and independent person with strong beliefs in life because i belive im not yet who im supposed to be.
So then where do we stand?.......do we accept the change and try to make it work ...My theory is that if two ppl allow themselves to change and grow at the point where one has actually changed as a person...the other has changed too.They both have grown.And hence they both are again able to accept each other...unless of course they change and grow in 2 different directions.
So what if only one grows.The other is lagging behind.What do u do?
If ure the one whos growing do u help the other catch up and wait patiently till they do? or do u cut them out because they are holding u back from being who and how u want to be?
If ure the one lagging behind do u accept the other has grown and try to catch up?or do u cry and throw tantrums till the other compromises enough to fit ure idiocrasies?Or do u leave because u cant accept them any more either because you feel they arent the same or u wish to set them free from ureself?
Cutting people free hurts.Both ways...Letting go hurts too.U cant always know if its the right thing for u.You just have to feel it.But feeling the truth is the hardest thing to do.It requires a great amount of strength and acceptance.To gain that itself change is needed.either u are stuck in that rut because u cant allow ureself to grow thanks to some forces holding u back.Or u break thru the hard truth and sprout.It hurts.But the undeniable truth is- wounds heal.and so will you.
so in the end what is it? Life makes u change so allow it to and ul grow into the person u will ultimately be.Or fight change and remain the way u are forever because thats who u want to be?
I choose to grow.I choose to be patient.But I choose to not give in to the cries of regressive and emotionally stunted people.Such people i choose to cut loose.i choose to fight the pain.i choose to heal.
