Sun sets , darkness spreads,
Memories of you cloud my empty mind,
Desperately seeking you out
In my imaginary crowd
Looking for a smile that makes everything alright
The moon rises, still its dark
Memories of you take over my thoughts
I resist, I turn away
But the senseless thoughts of you just stay
I can see your kind eyes piercing through me
Your wild touch spreading like uncontrollable fire
Give it up, give in to what I feel
Then I wake up from this disturbing dream.
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Attention Seeking Whore!!
So I did a little research before writing this time. By research I mean the standard mode of research – Google it. Heck! It’s a standard in my books at least!! The second most favourite option to googling anything (yes googling is a term!!! If you don’t know it…go google it!!) is wiki –ing it.
I also messaged a few people, who might actually have an opinion. I asked them the question – “What is your opinion on human beings and their need for attention?”…I asked 5 people..only 4 replied…only 2 understood the question and the difference between asking about ‘human being’, which encompasses all types of people, and ‘the attention seeking whore’, people who are go to abnormal lengths to gain attention…funny world we live in….
So now I have two issues at hand, one, the point of discussion – Human beings and their need for attention. And two – the general perception by people of a human beings requirement of attention.
Fair warnings before you start reading – yes my opinions will be biased and yes most of what’s written here is simply my opinion. Its my blog. So too bad.
This is what I have discovered:
1.Most websites talk about attention seeking disorders but not the general need of people for attention which is necessary for every human being
2.Apparently, if you are emotionally mature you would gain the required attention naturally from your daily life, especially from your work and from stable relationships and have high EQ!! (like..what??).Its the emotionally immature people who go to odd lengths to get attention. These are the people who develop attention seeking disorders
3.There are some umpteen ways of seeking attention which would probably get you committed
4.Enjoying the attention of others is quite socially acceptable
5.As per someone’s blog, women need attention cause in the prehistoric days they figured that if they want a constant source of protection and food they need to mate with a guy..if the guy gives attention, he’s a keeper and she’ll mate with him. In other words – attention is the answer to our entire existence. Without the initial need for attention there’d be no mating and no entire race of human beings.
6.Screw everything else…read this!!! - http://www.tanmonkey.com/fun/why-cats-need-humans.php
7.I hate research
Having established the last point this is what I think – people need attention. Period. People talk to other people for attention. People have relationships to satisfy their need for attention. Monogamy was created to give the illusion of being someone’s priority. Polygamy was preferred because it gave the man the attention of multiple women. We all need it..we all function on it…So why deny it!!
Why is there politics in offices - to gain attention. Why do peacocks dance - to gain attention. Why do girls/boys flirt – to gain attention. Why do we dress in the latest fashions and do up our hair – to gain attention. It’s a very very basic need. And there bloody hell is nothing wrong with it.
But why go through this whole drama of understanding human beings need for attention. It’s a bid to understand myself better. I have recently come to realize that sometimes..with some people..i try and gain attention…that there are times when I feel attention deprived. No, I don’t have a bad home life or a bad relationship…they are all perfectly healthy and normal. Here’s my problem, I get bored easily….with people…with things…nothing hold my interest for too long….after a certain time I reach a point where I need some excitement. So I create it through new people…who I get bored of eventually when the attention starts waning.
Moot point being – human beings need attention for survival and happiness.
Coming to the second point… the general perception… I should expand this question…facebook here I come!!
However…based on a very limited research group I realize that there are people who automatically assume that needing attention is bad..its lame..it’s like a heroin shot and such people would go to any lengths to get it….they missed out on the basic point…I asked about human beings..not the “desperately seeking attention”..the few who did understand the difference did admit that people need attention….I’m going to continue on this topic after I get responses from the larger group…
But I started thinking about it because it made me realize that people in general seem to consider seeking attention as a bad thing…I tell my best friend what I’m doing to get someone’s attention and we laugh at the drama we create in our heads….but if I told somebody else that they’d actually consider me ‘low’ for even wanting the attention and actually scheming to get it. Well guess what…at least I know I’m doing it..and why…half of the people out there don’t even realize that they are constantly seeking attention and a majority of those who do realize don’t understand why.
Now here’s a dilemma – I do know people who go to really odd lengths to make themselves the centre of attention. And I really don’t like those people. So im actually being kinda a hypocrite here. Or am I not understanding the basic meaning of attention seeking.
Hmm..this requires more thought.
Thank you for leaving us alone but giving us enough attention to boost our egos - Mick Jagger
I also messaged a few people, who might actually have an opinion. I asked them the question – “What is your opinion on human beings and their need for attention?”…I asked 5 people..only 4 replied…only 2 understood the question and the difference between asking about ‘human being’, which encompasses all types of people, and ‘the attention seeking whore’, people who are go to abnormal lengths to gain attention…funny world we live in….
So now I have two issues at hand, one, the point of discussion – Human beings and their need for attention. And two – the general perception by people of a human beings requirement of attention.
Fair warnings before you start reading – yes my opinions will be biased and yes most of what’s written here is simply my opinion. Its my blog. So too bad.
This is what I have discovered:
1.Most websites talk about attention seeking disorders but not the general need of people for attention which is necessary for every human being
2.Apparently, if you are emotionally mature you would gain the required attention naturally from your daily life, especially from your work and from stable relationships and have high EQ!! (like..what??).Its the emotionally immature people who go to odd lengths to get attention. These are the people who develop attention seeking disorders
3.There are some umpteen ways of seeking attention which would probably get you committed
4.Enjoying the attention of others is quite socially acceptable
5.As per someone’s blog, women need attention cause in the prehistoric days they figured that if they want a constant source of protection and food they need to mate with a guy..if the guy gives attention, he’s a keeper and she’ll mate with him. In other words – attention is the answer to our entire existence. Without the initial need for attention there’d be no mating and no entire race of human beings.
6.Screw everything else…read this!!! - http://www.tanmonkey.com/fun/why-cats-need-humans.php
7.I hate research
Having established the last point this is what I think – people need attention. Period. People talk to other people for attention. People have relationships to satisfy their need for attention. Monogamy was created to give the illusion of being someone’s priority. Polygamy was preferred because it gave the man the attention of multiple women. We all need it..we all function on it…So why deny it!!
Why is there politics in offices - to gain attention. Why do peacocks dance - to gain attention. Why do girls/boys flirt – to gain attention. Why do we dress in the latest fashions and do up our hair – to gain attention. It’s a very very basic need. And there bloody hell is nothing wrong with it.
But why go through this whole drama of understanding human beings need for attention. It’s a bid to understand myself better. I have recently come to realize that sometimes..with some people..i try and gain attention…that there are times when I feel attention deprived. No, I don’t have a bad home life or a bad relationship…they are all perfectly healthy and normal. Here’s my problem, I get bored easily….with people…with things…nothing hold my interest for too long….after a certain time I reach a point where I need some excitement. So I create it through new people…who I get bored of eventually when the attention starts waning.
Moot point being – human beings need attention for survival and happiness.
Coming to the second point… the general perception… I should expand this question…facebook here I come!!
However…based on a very limited research group I realize that there are people who automatically assume that needing attention is bad..its lame..it’s like a heroin shot and such people would go to any lengths to get it….they missed out on the basic point…I asked about human beings..not the “desperately seeking attention”..the few who did understand the difference did admit that people need attention….I’m going to continue on this topic after I get responses from the larger group…
But I started thinking about it because it made me realize that people in general seem to consider seeking attention as a bad thing…I tell my best friend what I’m doing to get someone’s attention and we laugh at the drama we create in our heads….but if I told somebody else that they’d actually consider me ‘low’ for even wanting the attention and actually scheming to get it. Well guess what…at least I know I’m doing it..and why…half of the people out there don’t even realize that they are constantly seeking attention and a majority of those who do realize don’t understand why.
Now here’s a dilemma – I do know people who go to really odd lengths to make themselves the centre of attention. And I really don’t like those people. So im actually being kinda a hypocrite here. Or am I not understanding the basic meaning of attention seeking.
Hmm..this requires more thought.
Thank you for leaving us alone but giving us enough attention to boost our egos - Mick Jagger
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